We don’t have a flirty rapport or anything like that, just a mostly staid and mutually respectful friendship. I have a longtime close male friend whom I guess I’ve always been attracted to, with perhaps occasional flickers of mutual sexual tension, but nothing’s ever happened between us-I met him back when my relationship was closed, then he was in a long-term relationship, yadda yadda.
You have to pick a lane: Send pics and show affection with clear caveats, or find peace with the complicated dynamics you’re helping foster. That means the only way to make it clear that you aren’t interested, that you’re just having some digital fun or whatever it is you’re doing (what are you actually doing?), is to say so explicitly. There’s nothing wrong with sharing nudes (provided the recipient’s consent), but you should understand that along with your muff shots, you’re sending a message of potential sexual interest and/or availability. I’d be a hypocrite if I advised you not to express your sexuality. It doesn’t sound like you are trying at all. I don’t mean to interrupt your merry, nearly nude traipse through life, but a good way to set boundaries is to actually set them. But I also don’t want him to try to come on to me, because rejecting him in that scenario would also be awkward. Mandela Barnes on Twitter criticized the meme comparing Muslims to garbage and said Schneiter is the one “who has to be taken out.” Schneiter said in his appeal that those comments amounted to a “premature conclusion” that Schneiter would be fired.How can I keep clear boundaries without hurting his feelings? Flat-out telling him I’m not attracted to him seems like it will kill the vibe. Over his 42-year career, “there is no evidence whatsoever” to suggest his personal views were the same as those presented in the memes, Schneiter wrote.Īfter the article was published, Lt. Schneiter said he testified as part of the probe that he found the memes “objectionable and offensive.” He argued they were posted to promote discussion and debate. In his defense, Schneiter said there was no evidence that the Facebook memes he posted represented his views. “He’s the only one who flew the damn flag,” Cade said. Tony Evers declared it “Pride Month” and said the flags could be flown at state offices and buildings. Schneiter also claimed that he was the only prison official who agreed to fly a gay-pride rainbow flag outside the Kenosha Correctional Center in June after Gov. He said the department’s investigation into what happened was not fair, objective or thorough. 12, Schneiter said the Department of Corrections failed to establish just cause for removing him. In a letter appealing his firing dated Jan. He also posted a meme contrasting the LGBTQ flag with the Confederate flag, along with the message “If they have the right to fly theirs, we deserve the right to fly ours.” In June, he posted a meme of two black garbage bags next to a Muslim woman and child in black burkas and a caption saying the woman had three beautiful children. Schneiter was fired after the Milwaukee Journal Sentinel in July reported on his Facebook postings. “I don’t think he’s racist and even if he’s racist he’s got First Amendment rights,” Cade said. Schneiter referred other questions to his attorney, Nate Cade, who said the Department of Corrections acted improperly in firing him. “If I get my job back, I’m going back to work,” he said in a brief interview. Schneiter, 65, had said in the summer that he intended to retire soon, but on Friday said he wants to return to work. The state Department of Corrections did not immediately return messages seeking comment Friday.